Do you often feel uncomfortable presenting yourself to other people or on stage? If you really want to get rid of this nervousness and tension and gain confidence in your life then we guarantee you that by the end of this article, you’ll start feeling that you might even give a TedX talk tomorrow. And we aren’t joking about it. So, now that we know your problem, let’s get going for the solution.
There are a lot of reasons why you might feel that you are not confident. You might find it difficult to share with people because you are afraid that they’ll make fun of you. So, if we generalize this then we can consider that you might have one of these problems.
- You think you aren’t good enough.
- You think you aren’t made for it.
- You are extremely shy.
- You might have a terrible experience of opening up to people.
- You are too scared to even try to do something about it
Anyways, it doesn’t really matter that which of the above problems you are dealing with because they all fall under the same category. And all of them have one solution and that is you have to gain confidence. There are various ways in which you can really work to gain confidence but we have listed a few that are the most effective one and you’ll not find it anywhere else.
1. Gain confidence by interviewing yourself
It might sound crazy but one of the most effective ways to gain confidence is to talk to yourself like you are in an interview. It’s not necessarily a job interview but you can even create a scenario like a media interview or a political interview. This helps in generating ideas and answers to several questions. Suppose you are taking an interview of yourself and asked yourself that who do you think will be the next President and why? Then you are allowed to make mistakes here and frame and answer for the question. And now when you’ll be asked something like that in your actual life then this time you have an answer ready and the margin of error is really less. This will help you to gain confidence and will also develop your communication skills as you yourself will play the part of the interviewer as well. So, it will have a two-way impact on your confidence. You’ll be gain confidence to ask questions and to give answers at the same time.
2. Stop being scared of being wrong:
There was a time when I used to be so scared about being wrong when I used to speak in front of people. But now, I have hosted several international conferences, fashion shows and much more in front of a huge audience. How did I do that? Well, at a point in my life I realized that I have to stand up for myself because nobody else will. And there was an opportunity for me that a public function was looking for an anchor for their program. I didn’t give it a second thought and simply signed up for it. I went to the trials and I was sweating heavily.
There are many more applicants but I simply told myself that I don’t have to be better than anyone but I just have to do my best. I gave an audition and I spoke 70% of the lines wrong. But just because I wanted to get rid of being not confident, I gave my best with my body language and expression which I used to copy from TV anchors. The auditions ended and I found out that I was selected as the anchor for that program. That day I understood that it’s not about being 100% correct. But it’s about making it look like what you are saying is correct.
3. Don’t think about your audience
Either on a debate, speech or even in a job interview. Never consider your listener to be someone dangerous. Just try to take it easy on yourself. Keep one thing in your mind always that no matter the one listening to you is the principal of your school/college or any minister. You only need to keep the focus on yourself. If you start thinking too much about who is sitting in the audience or who is the HR sitting in front of you then you are more likely to ruin it. I failed the first 2 of my job interviews only because I thought the ones sitting in front of me with my resume are employees of corporate giants and are someone really big.
The third time I convinced myself to consider the one taking interview as just another guy having a chat with me. And I said to myself that I don’t care if I get rejected this time as well. And that made the difference. The moment I decided that I’m more awesome than the one sitting on the other side of the table, it started working for me and helped me gain confidence.
These are a few tactics which you can follow to bring some drastic changes in your confidence level. And don’t forget, practice is the key here. Nobody gets things the perfect way in the first attempt. For your information, it took me 3 different interviews to get my first job. It took 2 weeks of practice to come and speak on the stage to host an event. And it took me years to make a name as a popular speaker. But one thing is certain, if you don’t lose hope then you’ll surely get where you want.
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