“I’ll not allow anyone with their dirty feet to enter my clean mind”. You might have come across this quote before but if you need to know how you can deal with toxic people around you without getting intoxicated by their negative energy then this quote is something you might like to get a print of and paste that on your bedroom or office’s wall. Honestly, we all are surrounded by so many negative people around us and let’s admit it that it is difficult not to react to them. No matter if they are your friends, family or colleagues, if you are reading this then you probably want to get rid of their nonsense and that is why you are going to get your answers for how to deal with negative people around you.
It starts with self-realisation:
For most of us, we know every morning when we wake up that we have to deal with negative people or we are gonna be surrounded by them the whole day. In this case, you have to develop a simple yet effective practice that every morning you have to spend a small share of time to tell yourself that whatever you are going to do today, you are excited and passionate about it. Do it till you are really sure that nothing today can match your energy. It is important because nobody else will ever do it for you. You are not gonna have someone behind you every morning to tell you that you can do it and you have what it takes. So, you need to have a habit for yourself that every morning you need to affirm yourself that you’ve developed yourself strong and influential enough that nothing can interrupt you from achieving what your goals for the day.
Self-motivation is one of the most underestimated powers in this world. The truth is that the majority of the people around you will hurt you by their words or actions without even caring about how you might feel and you’ll find no one who bats an eye for your feelings. It is your duty to appreciate yourself every morning for whatever you’ve achieved in your life and recall that you’ve come so far on your own. Let the negative people stay around you because if you go out every day prepared for them, you’ll do much better in life. Just remember that you revise everything you’ve prepared for your test in the morning before you enter the exam hall. Consider every day as a new test and prepare yourself similarly every day because we all are surrounded by some fucked up people waiting to ruin our day and if you are prepared enough right from the morning then every day is gonna be your day.
Respond, don’t React:
You might have heard of the strategy of not responding to any bullshit that you hear from bad people. But, this will not always be the case. Let’s be practical and accept that every person has a limit of not responding to bad things happening around and dealing with them patiently. Patience, when tested every day, is meant to be lost one day. That is why instead of reacting to whatever negative said by the people around you, it is better to opt for responding to them with a positive answer. When people say negative things to you then most of the time they want you to react to that and when you don’t give them the reaction they were expecting then it definitely turns them down. But this can’t be used in the long run and that is why it is better to respond to them with your class. Don’t let them think that they are reaching to your vulnerabilities. Teach them a lesson right on the spot. When you have a mindset right from the beginning of the day that nobody can drag you down then there are actually great possibilities that anything that tries to bring you down will fail for sure.
You must be thinking about how to respond in such a way that you should also feel satisfied as well as you shut the negative person up. And your answer is “Kindness”. So often it is misunderstood with weakness and that ain’t true at all. You look at any successful people and they’ll always tell you to remain kind at various stages of your life. You might recall Selena Gomez’s famous song “Kill em with kindness” as that song is also about letting you know that people are always going to try to bring you down and touch your vulnerabilities but you being kind and react in a thankful way for their criticism and negative thoughts will definitely make them go crazy. You never know how badly you shut someone up by just responding to their negative thoughts in such a way that they feel dumb about saying something to you.
There are gonna be people who will think they are better than you at everything. There are gonna be people who’ll try to tell you how to do your job at which you are already great at. There are gonna be people who’ll try to make fun of you and your ways of working. But, you being calm and kind and responding to them in a thankful way will obviously ruin their plans and hard work of attempting to bring you down.
So, now you know the two essential secrets of dealing with negative people in your life. Remember, kindness is not weakness instead, it is a quality that a lot of people around us are lacking. Believe in being calm, and responding to every negative thing in a positive way because it is never ever worthy to come down to someone else’s level who doesn’t match your standards. Adapt and practice these two key points in your daily life and you’ll see significant changes in your life. Keep this simple message ready for every one negative around you, “Kill them with Kindness & Bury them with Smile”